Gary J. Proctor

 Gary J. Proctor, a devoted family man, patriot, and man of faith, was born on December 16,1944, to Vaneta and James Proctor. He peacefully passed away on April 10, 2024, leaving behind a remarkable legacy. Gary’s life was defined by his unwavering love for his family, his deep commitment to his country, and his steadfast adherence to his religious beliefs.

Gary’s journey of love began when he met his sweetheart, Rhonda Maureen DeGroot, in Denver, Colorado. They sealed their union on February 11, 1969, in the Manti Temple. Together, they built a life filled with love and laughter in Elk Ridge, where they raised their five children: Gary Jr., Troy, Tana, Sonya, and Greg. Gary’s world revolved around his family, and he took immense pride in watching it grow to include 22 grandchildren and nine great-grandchildren, with another one on the way.

After his family, Gary’s greatest passions were his faith and his freedom. A faithful member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, he served a church mission to England, exemplifying his devotion to his beliefs. Gary’s patriotism ran deep, leading him to join the United States Army at age 21, where he served for three and a half years. He later dedicated many years to the Utah National Guard as well. Gary instilled in his children from a young age a profound love and respect for this country, the flag, and all those who serve and have served in the armed forces. He found solace in singing and listening to patriotic songs ,standing proudly for the red, white, and blue. Gary’s individual service and unwavering love for his country made him a shining example of a true patriot.

Music was a constant source of joy for Gary, and he shared this gift generously with his family and all those around him. His wonderful sense of humor brought laughter and endeared him to many. Gary’s life was marked by his ability to find humor in even the most challenging situations, bringing smiles to the faces of those he loved.

Gary was predeceased by his beloved wife, Rhonda DeGroot Proctor; his father, James Proctor; his mother, Vaneta Proctor; his brother, Donald Proctor; his sisters, Carol Ashby and Colette; and his great-granddaughter, Maely Downey Landreth. After the profound loss of his wife eight years ago, we can imagine his long-awaited, joyful reunion with many loved ones. He is survived by his sons, Gary Proctor and Troy (Angie) Proctor; his daughters, Tana(Corey) Olsen and Sonya (Rusty) Downey; his son, Greg (Syringa) Proctor; and his siblings, Richard (Maridean) Proctor, Phillip (Anita) Proctor, Margo (Dennis) Heiner, and Debbie(Mike) Malone.

We are eternally grateful for Gary’s unconditional love, unwavering care for his family and friends, and the remarkable life he lived. He loved deeply, and he will be profoundly missed. We take comfort in knowing that we will one day be reunited with this extraordinary man, whose impact on our lives will forever be cherished.

The family would like to thank Crystal and all the staff and nurses of The Bennion Veterans Home and the Bristol Hospice nurse for their loving and compassionate care.

STORY: Being an Earthling is hard.  The Monday we got home from Vegas Greg got a call from his brother that they were calling in all the family. His dad was not doing good at all. Greg got a flight for the next day and was hoping to make it in time to say bye.  Greg did make it. All the siblings were able to say their good-byes.  Tana had kicked everyone out about 12 and called them back in around 3 when he passed. Greg really did not sleep for 24 hours.

As sad as us mortals are I cannot be sad for Gary. He missed Rhonda every day for 8 yrs. The joy of the reunion. I can cry for Greg and the rest of the family.

We flew to Utah. (see other post) We tried to make memories with the kids. Every day we played Telestrations at Tana's. We went to an arcade, Maverick, La Casita, 5 below and the Spanish Fork Park.  Note to self; you NEED working head phones for plain rides.

The service was sweet and perfect for Gary. Savana played a song on the guitar. Tana’s girls sang and our family sang gethsemane. My mom and dad came, and Mandy. It was so wonderful having support. Colvin was over joyed to see Mandy. (she is Tana’s friend that has been coming to Vegas with us since the beginning)

That night most of the siblings met up at the Spanish Fork Park. They realized that they want to get together more often. They all are going to have to make the effort.

I am so thankful that I know families can be together forever. Family might drive you crazy, but they are our biggest strength.